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This is my first post for this new blog and I'll start by introducing myself and giving you all a little background.

Almost 2 years ago my ex-wife decided that she was unhappy in our marriage. Through her unhappiness she reached out to a college sweetheart (who I refer to as G.I. Genius) through Facebook and began a relationship with him rather blatantly and without regard for my feelings or the welfare of our son. For six months she decided to disappear to be with him over weekends and during the week would act depressed and remote. I allowed her to manipulate me over this time because, like any loyal husband, I loved her and thought that if I loved her enough she would see the mistake she was making. I also thought that our marriage and our 2 year old son was worth more than her new relationship. I was wrong!

I came to a breaking point on a rainy April day and after being screamed at, physically assaulted and mentally worn for 6 months by a women I once loved I realized that for my sake and the sake of my son I had to take action. My ex-wife had made the decision that she was going to live in the comfort that I provided while carrying on her relationship with "the other man". I had lost 30lbs over this ordeal and many nights didn't sleep as I envisioned them being together. I tried to stay strong for my son and kept a positive face for him during the day while suffering at night after he went to bed. I was alone, hurt and on that day in April I had decided enough was enough. I filed a protection from abuse order and had my ex-wife taken from my home. This was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.

The months that followed brought all the joys of divorce. The Lawyers, Judges and court documents piled up. The adjustment of only seeing my son 50% of the time was and still is something that brings me much heartache. The frequent attempts for my ex-wife to still control me even though she didn't want to be with me. Her frequent outbursts over phone or text a common occurrence as I wondered why is she soo angry at me over something she wanted. And then of course the thought that G.I. Genius a person of little morals and values would be around my son. Not only would I have my ex-wife polluting my son but I'd also have a goofball to assist.

With each day that goes by I do feel a bit better but I have times that I do miss the thought of what my ex-wife was. I realized that I loved her for what I thought she could be not what she actually was which was a huge mistake on my part. I don't hate her for what she did but I don't respect her. She did give me the most precious gift, my son, and for that I thank her for.

So here I am, at this point in my life just trying to pick up the broken pieces of my life. I know this into was long for a blog but at least you know where I'm coming from..where I've been. So as I write I will be writing from my heart as I journey along post divorce. I promise not all posts will be serious as I am a funny guy and have plenty of good stories to share being single again. So away I go to sweep up more pieces of my past..tuck them away and move forward.